Roommate Struggles 101

Where's My...?

Waking up ten minutes before class is something that is sure to happen in college. When this happens, you want to be able to grab your shoes, that you’re sure are in your closet, and run to the bus stop, your bike, or car and book it so you’re not late for your attendance quiz. However, what happens when you slip your feet into the door of your closet to put on your shoes, and they aren’t there? For some people that are cursed with the roommate that is forever borrowing anything they want without permission, they know immediately that their shoes could be anywhere on the planet at that very moment. This page is for the people who need help ridding themselves of the roommate that is forever borrowing, without ever asking.

Savannah, Florida State University

“Heck yea it was frustrating! We all kinda borrowed each others stuff but we would always put it back. She started taking and wearing my stuff and leaving it in her room or car and even took a few things when she moved.”

Savannah's solution

“I started to lock my door when I left to go anywhere and if I knew she had something I just went in there to take it back. A lot of times, confrontation was all it took. Just saying “Have you seen my black boots?” They would end up back in my room shortly after.”

Is this your bacon
It's all fun and games until someone's bacon gets eaten.

David, Santa Fe Community College

“He uses all of my appliances, food and dishes. Its as if he refuses to use his own belongings. Once, he was using something of mine, broke it, then sneakily replaced it so that I would not notice it was broken.”

David's solution

“I would usually confront him about the situation if I can find him, – he likes to avoid me – but he’s a pretty bad listener, so I’m moving out. It’s almost costing me more money to live there than it is to just break the lease and leave.”

A solution from an RA, Haley, University of Florida

The most important thing for conflicting roommates to do is to sit and talk first, before involving anyone else, or going to any drastic means to prove a point. Having a written contract helps to lay out the expectations of both roommates, and holds them to that standard throughout the year. When it comes to a roommate always meddling in your things, and taking your things, always talk it out first. If talking it out does not work, lock your possessions in your closet, or put them away so that only you have access to it.