Roommate Struggles 101

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Almost everyone knows that moving away to college is one of the most liberating feelings that a young adult will feel in their lifetime. However, under certain circumstances, it can feel like an imprisonment. This site serves as a guide on how to deal with some of the worst conditions someone might face while living with a new or old roommate.

Some initial advice from a former RA and graduate from Florida State University, Alyssa

"The best way to deal with any roommate conflict is communication. Often times, a roommate doesn't realize that he or she is doing something that bothers you. In fact, it is more than likely that this person grew up around the same kind of behavior and has no idea it is out of the ordinary and bothersome to the people with whom he or she now lives. It might be a good idea to confront your roomie about your concerns at a time and place where they feel comfortable and in a way that they don't feel attacked. Depending on how defensive your roomie is, it might be a good idea to ask them if they're free to talk instead of just bombarding them so that they don't go all defense mode on you and shut down. One thing I used to suggest is making dinner one night for you and your roomie and then opening the conversation up over the course of the meal. I would not advise doing this around anyone else--doing so might make them feel embarrassed and in turn become irratated instead of willing to compromise. More often than not, simple conversations about your needs solve the majority of your problems. Also, it is very important to not let things build up otherwise you'll come off aggressive and possibily blow up on them. If it helps, it might even be a good idea to come up with a type of "roommate agreement.""

For a PDF of a type of "roommate agreement", click here.