Does Sex Addiction Exist?

Lynne Schultz

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Dr. Doug Weiss is a sex addiction therapist and has appeared on Oprah and Good Morning America television shows. His site,, sells books, dvds, telephone counseling and appointments for 3-day intensive counseling sessions. His site also includes religious books and Web sites.

Weiss wrote that the sex addicted person uses sex to “medicate” his or her feelings of stress and cannot stop his or her behavior.

Causes: Biological, Psychological, Spiritual

Sex addiction is caused by “biological, psychological, and spiritual reasons,” according to Weiss. The biological reason is addiction to one’s own brain hormones, while the psychological reason is using sex to escape prior abuse. As for spiritual reasons, Weiss wrote:

“Spiritually, a person is filling up the God hole in them with their sexual addiction. The addiction is their spirituality: it comforts them, celebrates them and is always available and present.”

Is Pornography Healthy?

The difference between a sex addiction and a person with a high sex drive, Weiss wrote, is that the person with a high sex drive is satisfied with his or her sex life. According to Weiss, pornography with regular masturbation is the “cornerstone” of sexual addiction that creates an “unreal world” to which the addict becomes conditioned.

Is Your Spouse a Sex Addict?

Weiss suggests that you may need counseling if your spouse shows signs of sex addiction. Such signs include: unaccountable time, money or moods; a lack of marital sexual activity; abusive or negligent behavior; arguments over sex; or an angry reaction after being turned down for sex. Other signs, according to Weiss, also include the spouse of the potential addict feeling "used, dirty or abandoned" after sex, and the potential addict owning a supply of pornography ("especially the kind you get at adult bookstores.")

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