Many scholars have said that interpersonal relationships develop in a number of stages that includes increasing involvement and commitment. The process of partner selection is also termed the filtering process. In this process the person is “weeding” out potential partners until there is one remaining person.
The more a couple spends time with each other, they are able to determine whether they will develop greater levels of intimacy and/or continue the relationship.
Many scholars have said that interpersonal relationships develop in a number of stages that includes increasing involvement and commitment. The process of partner selection is also termed the filtering process. In this process the person is “weeding” out potential partners until there is one remaining person. The more a couple spends time with each other, they are able to determine whether they will develop greater levels of intimacy and/or continue the relationship.1

Some Tips To Assist You in Restoring Your Relationship:


1. “Change your focus harping on what’s not happening in your relationship only results in the kind of anger and frustration that’s self-destructive.” “Remember the specific expressions of love and affection that are important to your mate.” Use these expressions and then your mate will be able to see that you are making an effort.
2. Downsize your schedule: If you and your mate are both committed to making the relationship work, and then changing your schedules will help. If both parties in the relationship sit and converse about changing some of your daily activities so that you can spend time together, this will also help.
3. Point out the positives Acknowledge when your partner does something that makes you happy. Remember that the small steps are just as important as the large steps. This will also increase the chances of things changing in your relationship.
4. “Get real Changing circumstances, like an unusually heavy workload, parent-related demands, temporarily mismatched schedules or personal crises, may mean that, for a time, you can’t expect the same level of intimacy from your mate that you once could. Talk candidly about what is—and is not—realistic for this period in your lives. By doing so you’ll unburden yourselves of unnecessary guilt and forge a supportive partnership.”4
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